Thursday, January 2, 2014

32 years ago and today


 
 It was January 2, 1982, a cold wintery day, the tempertures finally got up to -20 F, the aftermath of the blizzard the day before.  But my heart was excited, for  I was to change my name to match yours.  The dress had been altered, for I'd lost so much weight since my sister had made it last summer, the veil finally finished last night.  I nervously took out my pink curlers out of my hair, hoping it wasn't going to be one of those 'bad hair' days.  I wanted to look perfect for you as your bride.  
    We made it to the church in time to get dressed, and all the makeup on perfect.  I remember my friend Sandy inisted we curl your hair so it wouldn't stick up straight, trying to tame the stubborn Reuer straight hair.  I still chuckle when I see that picture, it really didn't help.  The pictures were taken, and I came down the aisle singing my little heart out to you. Yes, I sang all the way down the aisle, you were suppose to be singing too, but I think you just stood there and watched.  You had just recovered from all the groomsmens teasing about there's a rodeo out in Billings you could make if you left right now.  So glad you didn't take their ad
vice, and stuck it out at the front of the church as I came down in my Daddy's arm to take yours forever.  At least we hoped it would be forever.
   But today I get ready on what should be our 32nd anniversary, and there's not any pink culers, and I've begun to dye my hair to hide all the gray.  My heart is not excited, but instead sad and lonely, for today I walk into the church alone.  The kids are all here, a product of our years of love together, a testimony of a life well lived for God.  We've cried and prayed and made the plans for today, all the time missing you so much. We want to honor you with all our hearts, for you loved us without limit, and taught us so very much.  You've left us way to soon, there's no doubt about that, but the struggle has been long and hard, and now you're free.  I look forward to that day when we meet again on the other side, and rejoice together before our Lord.
    So today, January 2, 2014, I say my last good byes, but won't be my last tears, for my heart will always remember you.   You are a man to be admired and remembered for a very long.  I love you Todd, my friend, my lover, my pard.  I know you're cheering us on from the other side of the veil now, telling us to finish our race and run it well. 

Friday, December 27, 2013

Obituary of Todd James Reuer

November 14, 1960- December 22, 2013

Todd James Reuer was born on November 14, 1960 in Mobridge, SD to Rita (Lawless) Reuer and Calvin Elmer Reuer.  His love for the Dakota prairies and ranching began early on, growing up on a ranch nestled in the banks of Lake Oahe, south west of Selby SD. Todd attended grade school in Akaska, SD and then later graduated from Selby High School in 1979. In 1975 Todd went to a youth camp at a place called Outlaw Ranch outside of Custer,SD.  There at that camp Todd said that he "gave his life to Jesus Christ and asked Jesus to live through him". From that day on Jesus was not only a savior to Todd but His truest friend. His prayer for Christ to live through him is a prayer that was answered, as the love and joy of Christ was felt by all who were near to Todd throughout his life. Feeling a call to ministry, Todd attended a bible school called Shiloh Training Institute in Hamilton, MT after high school where he graduated in 1981. His love for the cowboy life did not stay behind in South Dakota, though. He took his calf roping horse to school with him so he could still rope at the local indoor arena any spare minute he had. During his time at Shiloh, he met Kelley (Shaw) from Mandan, ND. They were married on January 2, 1982 at the Presbyterian Church in Mandan. The newlyweds returned to MT as Kelley finished her school at Shiloh and Todd found a job on a ranch in Stevensville, MT. Their early years of marriage were spent helping with several church plants, singing at many events together, and working on farms and ranches in various towns in North and South Dakota. In 1983 they moved to Bowdle, SD. There, Todd worked on a ranch and Kelley and Todd both helped with a local ministry, traveling, singing, and preaching weekly. In 1984 Todd and Kelley moved to Hoven, SD and then in 1985 they moved to Bismarck and helped work at Circle C Ranch for a summer camp season. From 1985 to 89 they lived in the Hazen and Steele, ND area, helping a new church get started in each community. In January of 1988 they had their first child, Tyson. In Sept of 1989 they moved to Kenmare, ND to start and pastor a church. 

Todd loved people from all cultures and had a heart for missions. In 1989, Todd and Kelley and baby Tyson went on a mission trip to South East Asia, to teach at a couple different Bible Schools: one in Borneo and the other in Manila, Philippines. During their time in Kenmare they also took another mission trip into Mexico. They pastored the church in Kenmare for 3 years and then moved back to Todd's roots in South Dakota. For the next 15 years they lived in the Mobridge, SD area. In 1991 they had their second child Philip and in '97, a daughter Kristi.

Todd loved ranching on the rolling plains of South Dakota. He was interested in cattle management, rotational grazing practices and cattle genetics. He was an AI technician and also studied Bud Williams cattle management methods. Todd loved teaching others. He would often stop while working with his kids on the ranch to tell them about a certain type of grass, or share a life lesson found in nature. He had a love for teaching God's word and often taught at the bible school at his church in Timberlake, SD, his favorite topic to teach on was God's love. More importantly, Todd was known as a man who lived what he preached and his genuine love for others was felt by everyone around him. It was often said about him, that "he never knew a stranger".

In the summer of 2002, Todd had a horse accident and suffered a Traumatic Brain Injury. Over the next several years he struggled with recovery from the incident. In 2008 Todd and his family moved to take a different ranch job in Limon, CO and then later moved again to Kintyre, ND. Todd's Traumatic Brain Injury recovery was further complicated by a diagnosis of early Dementia and he increasingly struggled with his ability to focus and remember events. By 2011 the disease made it impossible for him to continue doing the work that he loved so much and with a heavy heart he had to quit ranching. 

Todd and Kelley moved back to the Bismarck/Mandan area, where Kelley took care of Todd while his condition continued to worsen. In the summer of 2013 Todd was placed into the hospital at Bismarck and then later moved to a long term care facility in Tioga, ND.

Always committed to go wherever He felt God called him to go, Todd had lived in over 20 houses and 11 communities over the course of his life. He spent his final 4 months at the Tioga Medical Center. On Sunday, God called Todd to move one more time and he passed away on Dec 22, 2013. 

Todd left a legacy of compassion and character. His ambition was to lead a quiet life working with his hands. Todd's final years were a struggle for him as he fought the devastating effects of dementia, but his life was a glorious victory. He touched everyone around him with his smile and genuine compassion towards others. Because of their many moves, Todd and Kelley would say that they really weren't sure where home was anymore. But that is no longer a question for Todd, as he was able to saddle up one last time and ride off into the sunset; one of God's favorite cowboys, finally.... home.    

He is preceeded in death by his father, Calvin Elmer Reuer.  He is survied by his wife Kelley, sons Tyson (Sarah) Reuer (Tulsa, OK) , Philip Reuer (Valley City, ND) , daughter Kristi Reuer (Bismarck) , Granddaughters, Kadence and Selah Reuer (Tulsa, Ok) . Mother Rita Reuer (Tea, SD) Siblings: Georgia McCool (Albuquerque, NM) , Dean Reuer (Spearfish, SD) Tamara Reuer (Rapid City, SD), Inlaws: Donald and Estella (Honey) Shaw (Mandan, ND), Sister In Laws: Dawn and Doug Diehl (Rapid City, SD) Debbie Shaw (Bismarck), Kim Shaw (Bismarck), Brother in Law: LaRue and Tracie Shaw (Bismarck, ND),  and many Aunts and Uncles and Cousins.

Thursday, December 26, 2013

Celebration of the life of Todd James Reuer Information


I'm sorry for the delay of details to the time of Todd's funeral, but with Christmas, the funeral home was closed. This morning was the first we got to meet with them to discuss dates and times.


The Celebration Service of the life of Todd James Reuer will take place on Thursday, January 2, 2014 at 10:30 am at the Word of Faith Church in Bismarck ND.  (1503 East Divide Ave
The public viewing will be at Parkway Funeral Home in Bismarck, ND from 2-5 pm on Jan 1, 2014.  There will be a Prayer and Remembrance Service at 7 pm at Word of Faith Church on Wednesday, Jan 1, 2014.  

Monday, December 23, 2013

The Present Underneath the Tree

I sat down on the couch this morning in front of the tree, and looked down at the gifts and this is what I saw.  The poem below is what came to my heart.
Todd always called this time of year his panic season. You see gift giving was not his strong point, and in a span of three weeks, he had Christmas, our Anniversary, and my birthday.  He got off the hook this year, by moving on up to heaven.  But I think the gift of his life and love to me, will last a very long time.  Love and miss you my cowboy!

There's a  present underneath my tree
But the one to receive it is not here
He left this earth for a better place
His gifts there far greater than here.

He's in perfect health now, his mind is clear
He's speaking praises to his King
He's doing a dance around the throne
Singing "I Know my Redeemer Lives".

He's missed far more than he'll ever know
But his memory lives on in our hearts 
Till The Lord in grace will lead us home
To reunite with him in that place.

His Christmas is merry he's rejoicing indeed
With the one we all celebrate
His gifts are far greater than what we could give
Eternal life in it's fullness is his.